25 Nov The relational muscle

So I meet up with my dear friend Agnes, a former ballerina (still very much in her heart), now a literat and a translator (from polish to norwegian), and someone that must have read most literature in the world. Agnes gives many great intellectual analysis about religion, people, travelling, fashion, and about being in general. Mixing it with a constant flow of emotions, a dash of anxiety and whole bucket of humor, you have a very interesting lady, who’s never out of  a topic to investigate. Check out her blog here.

Anywho, we were talking about interaction and how that is colored by your parents (read environment) in addition to your own character. So with that as a base, we go about in the world, meeting and interacting with other people. Descriptions of interactions often go like this:  “I reacted like that, because I am like this”, or “She did that, because she is like this” – we categorize, ourselves and others, both to understand and to give meaning to our encounters. The backside is that reality described like this becomes somewhat static. And perhaps also the way we interact, or the way we understand ourselves. The point being, we change constantly (even though some aspects always are the same), thus the way we interact change as well. Seeing interaction as a muscle of relating, we can practice everyday to make this muscle more flexible, stronger or softer.